Last night was interesting. Scott and I went to Asheboro. He wanted to see Toy Story, so I saw it again for the third time. It was still funny and magical.
After the movie, we just drove around from Asheboro to Pittsboro to Sanford to Siler City. We had a good talk. Scott has been through a lot since I last saw him. He has gotten himself into some weird relationships, but he is good now and seeing a decent girl. He has a steady job, is getting his own place, and now wants to get married.
I guess it’s the next logical step, but it made me appreciate the fact that I was going to college. I want a steady job and I want to get married, but I could tell that Scott’s mind hadn’t grown, his worldview hadn’t expanded, he had just surrounded himself with other people who weren’t going to college and it felt like they weren’t really benefitting each other.
This morning was really difficult. I am so used to waking up in my own room with no one there to get in the way and everything working smoothly. Everything went so wrong this morning and I got really homesick and angry.
My own mother, rather than saying she understood what I was going through and trying to empathize with me, just said that if I acted that way when I was married that I wouldn’t be married for long.
I asked her why she always has to bring marriage up with me. Just because she got divorced didn’t mead I would. I told her that who I am now, the angry person that I am, the frustrations, the sadness; it’s not me. I can’t be me in this house. I was me when I was on that stage at Heaton Christian Church surrounded by all of those children in Lone Star Gulch. I can be me in Banner Elk, because there I feel loved and I love and it feels like home and I feel a beating heart in my chest!
Home is where the heart is.
I couldn’t stand it anymore. I was in tears. I grabbed the rollerblades that Vince let me borrow and I drove to Sanford. I rollerbladed at Kiwanis, listened to my new Enya tape and tried to remember me. I even read all of the journal entries in this section that I wrote while at home in Banner Elk.
I’m doing a lot better now.
As I was driving back, I realized that 1995 was over. I don’t have my other journals with me, so I will just have to depend on my memory for this.
In 1993 you read about a 17-year-old loving a youth group that would eventually fall apart by the time 1994 arrived. I got a job at McDonald’s, I dreamed Winter Dreams, I met Emily, and just before the year ended I met Jenna and Tenielle.
In 1994 I wrote to Emily while adoring and being adored by my new friends Jenna and Tenielle. I went to Deep Creek with Jonathan. I went to Fishnet. I said goodbye as a storm blew me away to a world I began to love.
I was taken to Cincinnati.
In fact, I was in Cincinnati when 1995 began. But I threw Cincinnati away and Emily and I wrote and fell in love with each other’s written words. A summer of McDonald’s, water gun fights, movies, Fishnet, and Crestview came and went as well as my heart. A wonderful semester began with my birthday, new friends, and Antigone. Others saw me as talented. My pen pal came back to me, and now I dream of a beautiful girl and a beautiful cottage while saying goodbye to the waterfall as it flows back to Florida.
And then the snow came, and the Christmas play, but I had to say goodbye and grew horribly homesick the first day I was away.
. . .
And so 1996 is just over a day away. I try to find a single phrase to sum up 1995, but I can’t.
All is said and done. The unspoken words cannot be taken back. I will not try to forget. I will not try to remember.
Is it really just a little planet.?
Do I have any control?
Are my smiles and frowns really mine?
I often wonder if I’m really on this little planet. If this is really my face. It’s as if I was in heaven, at home, and the Lord came up to me and said, “I’m sorry Jacob, but it’s your time. You have to go down to earth. You have to have a body, and you have to try and survive down. It won’t take long, just a little while. And don’t worry, I’ll help you until it’s time to return.”
It’s like I was handed a mask and told I wasn’t able to take it off. Only God can do that.
Do people see the mask, or do they see me?
What do I see?
I don’t know, and I’ll drive myself crazy trying to figure it out. All I know is that I’m on my way home; not only to Banner Elk, but to Heaven.
And I have only one wish, just one thing I pray…
That I remember only the good days, that I remember all of the best days. That I forget the pain, the shame and that I only remember the joys, only the love.
Only the love, as I walk on the roads under heaven.